The two things that just suck the life out of you is being sad and lonely. These two emotions have haunted people for as long as we have been on this earth. The problem is these emotions can lead to much bigger problems like depression, fatigue, low self esteem and even suicide.
The only way to challenge these emotions is to find out how they come about. The first step is to understand that lonelyness is an emotion. I personally believe it originates from sin, but that’s my belief, what’s important is that you see it as an emotion that can be harnessed and controlled.
3 Ways to Overcome Loneliness – Step 1
Emotions don’t just erupt, they are triggered by something or someone.
The key here is discovering those things that trigger this emotion for you and start working to repair the backlash. Maybe it’s watching the nightly news, that can even be depressing, or listening to a friend unload their problems on you not knowing the effect it has on your mental state.
You do not want to suppress emotions, the loss of a loved one will create a period of remorse and sorrow, it is when these feeling linger past the normal range that we get concerned.
Step 2 – Cry
We are taught to be strong, especially men are viewed as week when they cry.
Nature provided us with ways to releases, express our emotions and one of them comes in the form of crying.
Crying is really the start of a healing process, by keeping it in you create more bad than good. Do you think that people who commit suicide are happy? Suppressing emotions can only lead to more pain, don’t allow sin to tell you otherwise.
In my fifties I had a extremely emotional event take place. The details are not important, but the process is what you need to hear. I was always a low volume emotional type of person, this means not very emotional, but this situation changed that. I tried to suppress my emotions, but I couldn’t. These emotions came on inside of me like a flood and I burst out crying. This happened several times a day for a year. I lost some friends (I guess they were not true friends anyway) because I showed these emotions.
I’m sure behind my back I was labeled as some old, feeble, emotional man, well in hind sight I don’t give a crap. I now realize this is a natural thing to do and it is actually healthy. Don’t be afraid to cry it out.
Step 3 – Stay Connected
It’s natural to take some alone time in circumstances where you need to regroup your thoughts, but this is also a vulnerable time for sin to step in and make things worse.
Again, I refer back to sin because of my beliefs, but the important thing is that you understand the difference between healthy grieving and that fine line that makes loneliness become chronic.
If it takes all the energy you got stay connected. This could be a quick call to a friend just to say hello, it might be going to see a movie (even if you don’t feel like it), occupy your mind by reading a book, get a pet.
My dear friends I’ve been there, I have laid in bed for weeks dwelling in sorrow, but I knew at some point I had to force myself to reconnect again or it things would get real ugly. So you ask, what does real ugly mean? How about just giving up on life. Sadness and loneliness is a heavy weight and when you’re drowning the last thing you need is a weight around your neck, this is certain death.
Take an hour here and there to volunteer, it will be hard to force yourself to do this, but you will be telling sin that you won’t fall into its trap.
I tell you from experience, this works and these three steps will help you slip away from the grips of depression. In due time you will reclaim your purpose in life and get back on track again.
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