We can get into a ton of trouble if we always say what we feel. Feelings are not always accurate, they are often misleading and they can hurt. Sin likes us to spout off based on feelings, it uses this to hurt others.

The problem with not guarding what you say is you can never take it back. Even if you say your sorry, you have already said what hurts. People will forgive, but people won’t forget.

Train Your Tongue

It’s a daunting task to bite your tongue. We are taught to express ourselves, expression is OK when you know what your doing, but how many really do?

In the heat of an argument many things are said, feelings run high and anger goes unchecked. Sometimes it can lead to a physical confrontation, but most times it’s just verbal sparing.

The problem is in the heat of this exchange many things are said, things that hurt people you love. There is always forgiveness, but what if you were to practice guarding your tongue? You would not give sin the opening to anger or hurt.

Say What You Mean

If you practice restraint, don’t react to false feelings and think things out, then when you say something it would have meaning.

Think about how much garbage we hear on a daily basis. From people, coming out of the T.V., through the radio and reading the newspaper, how much do you remember? Not much I suspect.

But when someone who doesn’t speak much says something we listen, because we know they mean it.

It’s not based on a emotional spurt, it has depth and these are not words wasted. This doesn’t mean you always agree, but you know it has meaning.

Control

This all comes back to the spirit controlling the flesh. How in the world do you control yourself with someone in your face? This is the tough part of trying to control what you say.

I can only say it takes time. Sin uses anger, vanity, embarrassment to stimulate your feelings. If your out of control, then sin can be in control of your actions. You don’t have to allow this, you start by being aware of how it works.

You’ll be much happier and you will save yourself a lot of headaches if you practice guarding what you say.

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