We can get into a ton of trouble if we always say what we feel. Feelings are not always accurate, they are often misleading and they can hurt. Sin likes us to spout off words based on feelings, it uses this to hurt others.
The problem with not guarding what you say is you can never take it back. Even if you say you’re sorry you have already done damage.
People will forgive, but people won’t forget.
Control Your Tongue
It’s a daunting task to bite your tongue.
Expressing one self is part of communication, but when your emotions dictate your words and those words are hurtful, piercing words to someone else, this is when the trouble starts.
In the heat of an argument many things are said, feelings run high and anger goes unchecked. Sometimes it can lead to a physical confrontation, but most times than not it’s just verbal sparing.
The problem is in the heat of this exchange many things are said, things that hurt people you love. There is always forgiveness, but why not practice restraint before it happens. We know sin is a negative force and this produces negative results especially when you are vulnerable during an emotional situation, use caution.
Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say
There’s an old saying for you, look a little deeper at what is being said.
When you say what you mean, not what you feel, this implies you gave it some thought. This takes out some of the emotions and what you say has more content to it.
I’ve had times when someone said something to me without thinking and I said “No, I don’t accept that”. Then there have been other times when I told them they were right. You never have to accept what anyone says until you digested it and either accept or reject what was said.
People can say some awful, hurtful things and never have a second thought about it, most of the time they have no idea about what they are saying anyway, so take it with a grain of salt.
Controlling Your Own Words
Most of our articles on this site always circle back to what we allow to happen.
Sin uses all sorts of circumstances to provoke us so we lose control. You have someone right up in your face, they are cursing at the top of their lungs, how do you react? Someone cuts you off on the road, don’t you just fell like shooting them?
It only takes a moment to react, but if you take two moments you can control your reaction. Now the question arises, Why? Why control responses why not let loose and fire back?
It all comes back to CONTROL, if you react in like kind to a negative reaction you handed control over to the enemy. The other thing is a situation like that can escalate into something much worse. I’ve seen on TV where two women ended up beating each other to a bloody pulp over a bottle of ketchup, does this sound like fun to you?
Guard your tongue and save yourself a lot of headaches, life will be much sweeter and so will YOU.
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